I am NOT the mama!!!!

When my children get older and start having families of their own, will I be the mama that my mom is to me now? Please, if I can break the vicious cycle, I will.....for this is my vow: I will not be the mother that reminds their grown up kids to go to bed when they know that they have to get up for work or families. I will not be the mother that will remind their grown up children to brush their teeth or wash their faces or even shower or bathe, because if they want to make a bad impression because of their appearances and don't get the job of their dreams or the girl/guy of their dreams, then let them bear the consequences of their choices. I hope that I will have been a good enough parent that I will not have to remind them of these things. That they will have conditioned themselves to go to bed at a decent hour and if they don't, that they will suffer the consequences in their sleep deprived state the next day and learn from their mistakes. I guess there is the operative word....learning....which also means growing from our mistakes and bad choices. AHHHH....adversity is the spice of life and allows us these "learning" opportunities.....now off to bed for me....LOL